Are you Ready for a Good Death?

Sometimes I can't sleep. 

I wake up with anxiety, worry, and fear as my companions. 

On the surface, I might be worried about someone I love, I might be anxious about money, or I might be afraid that my world will fall apart in one practical area or another. 

It all seems so real that I almost miss the truth. 

The truth is that this is an opportunity for me to step into wholeness and freedom.

 I have another chance for me to die before I die. 

 

Death is so weird. 

 

We think it might be the end, and no one knows for sure, so it scares the shit out of us. It is total surrender to something that is so much bigger than us and that we have no control over. 

The truth is death is a reflection of the way life is already. 

We are so focused on the external and the temporary that we miss the eternal beings that we already always are. 

 

Our Life Systems (Our Body, Our Relationships, Our Work) invite us to realize the truth of...

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People want vulnerability. The real question is, will you give it?

 

People want vulnerability. The real question is, will you give it?

Don't talk, don't trust, don't feel.

Those were three basic, unspoken rules that I learned growing up.

As an adult, these simple words became more sophisticated and hidden underneath plausible but untrue reasons for my behaviour.

What's a plausible but untrue reason for my behaviour?

Those are the reasons that I give myself and others rather than the uncomfortable, vulnerable truth.

Like when I have no idea why I am feeling overwhelmed by anxiety, depression, or frustration, and someone asks me how I am, and I say: "I'm Great!".

Or I let people think the reason I work 60 hour weeks is that I am doing critical things (I mean, come on, I am committed and hard-working too, don't you know!?), rather than admitting that I am acting like a workaholic because I'm terrified that I might fail if I let up.

These sneaky plausible little games that I play in the blind spots of my life. If I don't bring them out into the light,...

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Blissed Out or Burned Out?

Do you feel frustrated with going back and forth between bliss and burnout in your business? Your career? Family? Life?

Do you sometimes feel angry and/or exhausted with your family, team, kids, partner?

 

If you can relate, you may not be aware of this, but that frustration, anger, and fatigue are the keys to your freedom (and your client's, family's, and partner's freedom as well).

 

There is a common misconception that the right methods, steps, and practices will give you what you want, but that's not true.

 

You may not realize it, but there is a way for you to harness all that raw data inside of you and your life (anger, frustration, fatigue, burnout).

You have to learn how to interpret what it's saying so you can finally harness it, so it takes you to where you want to go, rather than where you don't!.

 

Thankfully you have an onboard energy technology that will tell you exactly what you want to know.

The best part is it's also the fastest path to where...

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Do you feel like people don't listen?

Would you like to know how to cut through all the noise to get your message across?

Stop communicating in ways that don't feel right for you and that people are tired of hearing from you.

Making the individual contribution, you're here to make with your life is connected to finding your unique expression and language inside you rather than the outside world.

Self-expression seems like it should be the simplest and most comfortable thing in the world for us to do, but it isn't. At least it has not felt that way for me!

I think that it's because it is simple, but it is also far from easy.

Most people want to be authentic. It doesn't matter if you're in sales, management, leadership, or you're talking to your teenager. You probably want to communicate in ways that feel right for you rather than following cookie-cutter approaches that the world is full of.

The problem is that when the pressure is on and stress is high, it's easy to lose track of that desire and...

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I was an Ego-Maniac with an Inferiority Complex

 

 "What is most needed for us to heal as a human race is for us to gather in community in safe spaces that allow our hearts to be open so we may speak freely and offer a non-judgemental presence for listening deeply to others." Excerpt from the Charter for Compassion World Interfaith Harmony 

 

The last time I was a part of something like this, I was 24 and in seminary.

 

One of my professors invited me to come with him to an ecumenical event in a near-by town, whatever that was!

As I look back, I think he must have noticed the path I was on better than I did at that time.

 

For those that are like I was and have no idea what an ecumenical event is, it's a fancy way of saying: A time where a whole bunch of different faiths get together and see if they can get along and find common ground.

 

My professor was taking a risk by asking me to come along with him to this because it would have been frowned on by our school as somewhat inappropriate...

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Let Go of Your Agenda to Be Rich.

Let Go of Your Agenda to Be Rich.

I fought challenges in my life with everything in me.

I've always thought that there is a "solution" to every problem.

As I get older and discover more depth and light underneath the dark corners of who I am and what I have experienced in this life, I'm convinced that my problems are not meant to be solved.

They simply ask me to connect, listen, and then lead.

For the last 50 years, my motto has been: Ask forgiveness, not permission. In other words, lead, listen on the fly, and connect? What's that!?

It's my birthday today.

I am 52, and I can honestly say that I am not where I thought that I would be by this point in my life.

I'm much, much better off than I ever dreamed possible.

This arrival at my heart's desires has been accomplished in the most remarkable and unlikely of ways.

I got here by letting go.

One of the first awarenesses I had, when I began to pay more attention to energy speaking to me through my life, was that I needed to let go of...

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Break-Through-Compassion

As 2020 winds down, we're all starting to think about 2021. 

So much is unknown.

One of the hardest things for me is not knowing what is going to happen. No matter how much I pretend everything is ok, I get this familiar uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach. 

Over the years, I've learned to be gentle with myself during these times. It makes it easier for me and everyone around me, and it also facilitates practical breakthroughs. 

That's why harnessing compassion is so critical for us right now. 

Our resistance melts. The confusion stops. We become gentle and kind to ourselves and others, and we tap into the power of transformation.

It feels safer for us to trust even though we have no idea what will happen next, and we start to notice the energy within our lives that wants to evolve and become whole.

When we tap into the power of compassion, we experience the co-creative practically applied Love...

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Enlightenment, Bangalore Style!

 

Enlightenment, Bangalore Style!

 

We all want to lead lives that feel lighter, but we are so busy dealing with the heaviness of trying to solve life's problems that we miss our pathway to enlightenment.

I'm not talking about pie-in-the-sky enlightenment that gets talked about over a cup of coffee at the philosopher's cafe. I am talking about feet-on-the-ground real-world enlightenment that you feel in your bones.

Have you ever felt stressed out, overworked, or pressure in your life? In your neck? In your guts?

Then you know what I'm talking about.

Last year I went to Bangalore, India, for the first time to teach software engineers and agile coaches how to create a safe space in the middle of busyness.

I didn't know it at the time, but I was in for a real treat! Bangalore and San Francisco are within 150,000 square Km of being the same size in landmass. Still, with a population of over 8 million, Bangalore has ten times the people as San Francisco, which has 800,000 by...

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Are you from another planet?

Are you from another planet?

Spoiler alert: I think you are, but then, I think we all are.

The world is noisy. We all know that. From the time we're born into this thing called life, it feels like our consciousness smacks us with lights, cameras, and then action! And we're off and running.

When we first arrive in the delivery room, we cry to announce our arrival and our initial impressions of this weird, wonderful world. Right after that, we meet the humanoids that are supposed to teach us planet earth's traditions and customs.

Have you ever felt like you might be an alien from another planet?

I think we all are.

I think we were all walking through an exhibition on planetary travel one day, going from booth to booth, looking at the different places that we could go.  

When we suddenly heard a kafuffle and saw a big crowd quickly moving toward one of the stalls. We couldn't help ourselves. Our whole body felt drawn by the energy we felt, and we had to go and see what...

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Do You Need to Learn How to Parent Yourself?

Do You Need to Learn How to Parent Yourself?

"Feeling Safe Inside is so Subtle We Often Don't Even Notice We Need it..."

Children that are loved and accepted unconditionally feel four conditions naturally they feel:

Acknowledged...

Appreciated...

Accepted...

And they feel Allowed.

These 4 fundamental energies happen inside us automatically when we feel safe. 

The problem is most of us don't feel safe at all, but we don't even know it.

We feel pressure, and urgency, and uncertainty, and busyness, and anxiety, and problems, and challenges, but unsafe? 

The term that catches how people are feeling all over the world right now is V.U.C.A. This invented word stands for Volatile, Uncertain, Complex, and Ambiguous. 

The US War College invented it to describe the political climate at the end of the Cold War. VUCA has become the term of choice to explain how most of us are feeling most days.

The bottom line is we don't FEEL safe.

When people feel safe, they're happy, they...

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